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Jarhok Belouve - Student  |
oh well i guess its over between me and my girl, if anyone has any painfull storys feel free to unload them on me  _______________ -JARHOK BELOUVE- Unofficial Paddy to the great Squibit Belouve and Solitudes snog machine! |||||||||||||||||||||||PRONOUNCED JARHOK TEH S3X3H by Alexander D'kana||||||||||||||||||||||||| Loves Liso'sia! Uber new Belouve boy! My special people: Squibit Belouve,Roan Belouve,Bail Hope Belouve and of course the lovely Liso'sia! |
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SaberWeildinKow - Student 
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Quote: No but seriously...youve done a good job there kow...the only thing on which i disagree with you is...how can you be so sure that pr0n´s gonna destroy someones sense for beauty...or even make ppl emotionally less bound to their relationships? Its a too big word that youve said there man...you cant just stick it up as a fact... The other thing is...when girls believe that the only way to be loved...is to dress up like youve described in your post...then theres something wrong with their definition of love... They should know that the only form of love they get by using such measures is the physical one (or love for the body)...not the mental one Im sure that not everyone knows this... ...its just normal to at least ADAPT to their behavior...because beeing different is a bad thing in the eyes of the weak-minded man (which makes nearly all ppl around me weak-minded) Masta, be sure of this. Those feelings on porn I'm stating as belief..not fact. But I know what it has done to friends, some have become so "sick" (as the girls put it, keep in mind, 16 yr old girls) that they can't get a date. My friend's father left his wife and 6 children. I know in many cases of this, a quick check on the computer will show a history of looking at porn, and then buddy finders... Why do I think it disfigures one's sense of beauty? I can only tell you what it did to me (does this make my stance a bit more valid? I just share that to show I'm not being condescending on any level). Like I said earlier, I won't tell my whole sob story, but a year and 9 months into a two year relationship between an old friend and I, the focus of our relationship changed. Maybe it was because each of our best friends were together setting that example (which imo, is an excuse when used this way). But I think it was really because as time went on, I became able to vocalize my little "desires," and became unwilling to discourage those very things we had always hated. Like I said, the relationship ended quite roughly less than three months later (it was more like one). Maybe you just think this is one incident, but I just wrote out two more based on different situations in different areas of the country...but I don't want you all to think I'm some moral dictator, so I let it slide. Masta, on their definition of love. I can't agree anymore, something is definitely wrong with their definition of love. But where does that definition derive from? Surely from the influences of their friends, but most likely from their encounters with guys. I've spent a few nights of the last couple weeks talking with a girl (She's LDS..so anything I said to her wasn't an attempt to change her core...) about making out with her boyfriend (for the record, she came to me about it...I didn't go to her). As it turns out, although she knew it was wrong, it wasn't even the physical pleasure that drove her to do it...she told me that she loved hearing that she is beautiful, that someone loves her. That's all I'll say against her (truth be told, she ROCKS  )Quote: ...its just normal to at least ADAPT to their behavior...because beeing different is a bad thing in the eyes of the weak-minded man (which makes nearly all ppl around me weak-minded) I found that offensive Masta. I would argue with anyone on a moral base that if when presented with a challenge to any of ones' beliefs, that a person who can examine their beliefs, examine the challenge, and make a decision putting their original beliefs first (I think its best to make decisions before we even have to, but it's a struggle in the end (for me at least), THAT is being strong-minded to me Masta. Maybe it's stubborn, but it is definitely not weak-minded. I don't consider those who do become influenced by peers weak-minded (it's just not true), I'm just standing up for those who don't. Anyway, it's a bit early for me to make a post that won't make anyone upset (I think). But this isn't intended to...I'm not challenging the way anyone lives his/her life. Jarhok, you invited sad stories, I just decided to do something a little different...if a number of people get upset with all this, I'll (quickly) delete these posts. Please just keep in mind it is not my intention to offend (and I tried to make my words match my intentions, if my words sound argumentative, I assure you my voice at the moment is not). Once again, good luck to you Jarhok  This comment was edited by SaberWeildinKow on Oct 03 2004 02:09pm. |
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D@mned ++ - Student 
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argh, that sucks mate _______________ Bartender at Mune's bar. It’s not just a site, it’s a community. It’s not just a community, it’s the Academy. It’s not just the Academy, it’s a place in my heart. |
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Raziel Anjelis - Student 
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Guys! Listen to Lostprohets's LAST TRAIN HOME!!! or Drowning Pool's TEARAWAY!!! They pwn on pickin you up from your low point Here's my theory on relationships... When you are with someone, it feels like the hole in your heart has been filled, like nothing in the world can hurt you. You're all over each other....or if you're lucky, 3rd base...ahem... Anyway, it fails. Something has aggravated you or him/her to the point of major argument. You basically hate each others guts, but every so often you get a friendship. Remember this, because I've had so many failed relationships I've got this down to a fine art...This is ONE relationship. There are plenty more on the way.....just put the relationship down to experience. They just weren't right for you, remember that. Your match is on his/her way to soothe your wounds.... Also if your ex keeps stabbing you in the back, then ignore him/her. He/she will prolly realise she can't affect you, and then run to you. Anyway people, focus on the more influential things in life eg. school, work, jedi academy ahem, and in my case, rock music.  And Masta, he means that prOn can change your perceptions of your partner. They start to be more and more interested in sex than love. How would a woman feel if her man wanted to spend a night in with Jenna Jameson's(prOnstar)videos than their own partner?  _______________ Proud owner of El Vee For's 200th Comment, and Wicek's 2600th comment DaMi3N's 400th, Trad Redav's 666th.
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Masta - Jedi Council 
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Relationships = evil why? easy... Relationships = Time * Money Money = evil Time = Money Relationships = evil * evil Relationships = evil >_>'' No but seriously...youve done a good job there kow...the only thing on which i disagree with you is...how can you be so sure that pr0n´s gonna destroy someones sense for beauty...or even make ppl emotionally less bound to their relationships? Its a too big word that youve said there man...you cant just stick it up as a fact... The other thing is...when girls believe that the only way to be loved...is to dress up like youve described in your post...then theres something wrong with their definition of love... They should know that the only form of love they get by using such measures is the physical one (or love for the body)...not the mental one Im sure that not everyone knows this... Theres another thing ive noticed tho... Its called "group pressure" and "adaption" I dont know how extreme it is in your countries but its really bad in the place i live... For example...when everyone in your environment (and all of your friends)...is acting and dressing in certain patterns...then its just normal to at least ADAPT to their behavior...because beeing different is a bad thing in the eyes of the weak-minded man (which makes nearly all ppl around me weak-minded) Of course those "friends" wouldnt be real friends if they wouldnt accept you like you are...which reduces the count of my real friends to...0 lol (at least in RL) _______________ Find out more about the Jedi Academy Aurochs here and more about Masta here! Married to Kain. |
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if you love a girl, go after her Ash, don't let her slip away. ask her on a date before it's too late |
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SaberWeildinKow - Student 
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Jarhok, I feel so inclined to add a bit more to my blunt post. I can't be sure, but I Believe you are in the sixth grade. I remember when I was in sixth...(it was only like..4 years ago lol) I met some popular girl and for whatever reason she liked me, and I, being unaccustomed to being liked by a girl (I mean really, I hadn't had any luck since like 1st grade  ), agreed to go out with her. Well I'll tell you, if I was one thing, it was loyal. Anyway, she dumped me a month and a half later. For what? To ask another guy out. He refused, she came back, I turned her away. And by the way, my friends had told me all this would happen before I even got into the relationship.In that situation, there was nothing I could have done to make things work. I was Honestly thinking about what was best for her, and she was concerned with what was best for herself. I still remember the depression, I remember the heart ache. It was a massive blow to my self esteem (I mean...to be left for Another Guy!). But you know what, in the end, I don't think that relationship (notice I don't say 'she') was worth the tears. In sixth grade, or even throughout middle school we DO feel love for those we are attracted to, yet I fear we lack the maturity to put that love into practice. I'm not going to tell you that you should just stay away from women until you're sixteen (although I highly recommend it...I didn't even bother with any of that my freshman year, and now things are working out with a girl, Naturally. I think that's the best way really.). But I implore you that you do your best to keep your end of the deal clean. This is where I make my little moral plea: stay away from pornography. It will destroy your sense of beauty (it replaces it with a rather perverted one), and dull your sensitivity to the emotional support Women need throughout their lives (yes, even in middle school, I believe that That is where most challenges begin). I am sure that any girl would feel violated to know that in her boyfriend's mind, she is being compared to the hottest porno queen. Yet it IS true that some girls do not respect themselves (in the way they dress and carry themselves). This does NOT mean that it is ok to treat them the way they invite you to. I have listened to the hearts of a few girls, and have concluded that many (if not all..) who dress and act the way they do, do so because they believe it is the only (or most effective) way to be loved. I often consider the worth of a man's love if it is for a woman's body only. I think all agree it is worth nothing. I believe that if we can only treat Women with the respect that they deserve (which is Great), then many hearts will be made whole once again. Anyway, sorry for taking so much time. Best of luck to you Jarhok, be happy, the sun rises tomorrow P.S. I have not said anything to intentionally offend any person, but if I have, my apologies, feel free to come to me in private. |
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Koyi Donita - Student 
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I'm really sorry to hear about that NofrikinfuN. She probably avoids you now because she knows what she did was wrong and feels stupid for it. Everday she sees you reminds her of her heartless decission to love the bottle more then you. :/ I hope your doing better now and just know that you are alot better then her if that is how she is going to treat you. I would make her history if I were you avoiding her whatever the cost and keep looking forward. There's alot better out there my friend and I know your day will come. _______________ For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek. Rom. 1:16 So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. Rom. 10:17 I love my babyface. Smilykrazy is my baby and I love her. ...Swimming through the void we hear the Word, we lose ourselves but we find it all... System Of A Down.
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Koyi Donita - Student 
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I'm not sure what the situation is, but it's never good when it comes to the broken hearted. My heart goes out to you in this tough time. I just wanted to let you know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I know, when do I get there, right? It all depends on you. First off, if she hurt you it isn't worth your time or energy trying to fix/repair the damage. If she's hurt you in the past, there is a very good chance she will do it again given the right circumstances and that's not good at all. There are plenty of women and a few good ones out there. It's better to crash and burn with one your getting to know rather then one that's burned you already in my book, but others may view this differently. I don't know how in love you were/are with her and you are probably in alot of pain right now seeing as how you brought it here. I hope and pray that it isn't long lasting. Try to pick yourself up and hangout with friends, chill here, whatever will keep your mind off of things. Once you start to establish a new nitch for yourself, the pain will begin to let up on you and you will start feeling alot better. Best wishes to you during this rough time and know that there are people out here that care about you even though we've never met. Take care and feel better soon. _______________ For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek. Rom. 1:16 So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. Rom. 10:17 I love my babyface. Smilykrazy is my baby and I love her. ...Swimming through the void we hear the Word, we lose ourselves but we find it all... System Of A Down.
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NofrikinfuN - Retired 
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Here's one. I had been in a relationship with my fiancee' for about 5 years, with a 3 month seperation in the middle. We've had our ups and downs, but we were each others' first loves/serious relationships. Well, after I finished college in early March, I moved into an apartment with her. I had already asked her to marry me, and she said we would get married once she could find time off work for a proper ceremony/honeymoon. In the meantime, I was trying to find a job... Which was proving to be nearly impossible. She developed a drinking problem and decided that since I wasn't part of her favorite activity (Going to the bar with her friend) we obviously weren't meant to be together. That said, she broke up with me. Basically, alcohol has managed to make my life a little harder even though I avoid it like the plague... Go figure. Anyway, even though she always claimed we had the "forever" kind of love, we didn't last 6 months living together. Now, she won't speak to me. On the occaisions that I've gone to her, she has been mainly cold and distant... The last occaision I tried to offer her friendship. I thought it went well, but days later found she was telling people that I had begged her to come back to me and tried to break into her apartment. (I knocked on her door for ten minutes one day when I knew she was home... Apparently, thats practically breaking in.) Anyway, forever love can easily turn into forever hate I guess. |
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SaberWeildinKow - Student
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Bah I've got my sob story too but I won't share it. Anyway, just make sure you're not living for the moment and realize that any relationship you have now is not going to brighten your future...in fact I would argue that it can only hurt you. |
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SilkMonkey - Distributor of Cold Ones 
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Yeah...all you gotta do is get on her friends...and videotape it. Then send the tape to her(but keep a tape for your erm...'archives') _______________ |-HK-47 -SilkMonkey: You are receiving a warning for being_too_sexy. If you do not stop, action will be taken against you.|| (11:13:43) � Virtue dances for Silk ||Smiling owner of Smilykrazy's 6000th comment =) ||Odan Wei's Proud Big Brother|| Janus is my official TaruTaru Cuddly Animal Type Person. ||(@Virtue) Or you could just be a man and set fire to your genitals.....you won't fall asleep for days after that.......trust me.||Thomas Skywalker er for sexy for sitt eget beste!!!!| Not changing sig until the JA loosens up. (Started: Aug 31, 2005) |
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Seth C. Belouve - Student 
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Man I had a pretty bad break up with my Fiancee, and the Belouve boys can back me up on that one. But the trick is just give the situation a stiff upper lip, and find a way to make her incredably jealous lol. Makes it all feel better...remember not feel bad...just jealous. _______________ Look unto me for I possess the blue flag!! It is more beautiful then I ever imagined! You will now worship me as if I were a god! *smack, dies* I regret nothing, I lived as few men dared dream!! Red Guy from Red Vs. Blue Series |
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Carda Jowol - Student 
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AWWW poor Jarhok!!! _______________ [Gran Father/Founder of the Jowols] |
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Malk - Student 
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Just stick with beer, it never lets you down or hurts you _______________ You swing too hard, ass. I Swear!!! |
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I got engaged when I was 19. I was actually supposed to get married last Christmas, but last August, we broke up. So yeah. Jarhok, you're only young - don't let it bother ya, and you'll be ok. |
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SilkMonkey - Distributor of Cold Ones 
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Girls ignore my vast amount of super sexy points and call me ugly. _______________ |-HK-47 -SilkMonkey: You are receiving a warning for being_too_sexy. If you do not stop, action will be taken against you.|| (11:13:43) � Virtue dances for Silk ||Smiling owner of Smilykrazy's 6000th comment =) ||Odan Wei's Proud Big Brother|| Janus is my official TaruTaru Cuddly Animal Type Person. ||(@Virtue) Or you could just be a man and set fire to your genitals.....you won't fall asleep for days after that.......trust me.||Thomas Skywalker er for sexy for sitt eget beste!!!!| Not changing sig until the JA loosens up. (Started: Aug 31, 2005) |
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Raziel Anjelis - Student
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hehe nice one gradius _______________ Proud owner of El Vee For's 200th Comment, and Wicek's 2600th comment DaMi3N's 400th, Trad Redav's 666th.
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Gradius - Ex-Student 
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Smily, are you referring to women as fish? And men as sea-men? >.> <.< Okay, yeah, had to lighten up the mood a bit. _______________ - Proud padawan of Kueller. - We really are at the beginning of it all. The trick, of course, is to make sure we never find the end. - Bill Bryson, A Short History of Nearly Everything - <gen-e-sis-happy> Liek, you can train, liek, a n00b, but he'll just be a trained n00b... --> Wise words! - "daer SOE me likes your a company i am having your some money for letting me do stuff cos mes the best amd i do it all meself" - Slider This comment was edited by Gradius on Oct 01 2004 10:29pm. |
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Smilykrazy - Retired 
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I had a REALLY bad experience with my first bf. Then my second bf was abusive. THANK GOD I HAVE KOYI NOW!! Otherwise I dunno what I would do. Sorry about your loss man. There are many fish in the sea. You will get the right catch one day. _______________ RIP MOM 06/29/58-07/31/08 Married to Koyi Donita 4/30/11 |
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Raziel Anjelis - Student 
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Quote: Sry to hear all that stuff guys...i know how painfull it is but you guys have to keep on going...dont make the mistake and prevail in the past for too long... Take Care _______________ Proud owner of El Vee For's 200th Comment, and Wicek's 2600th comment DaMi3N's 400th, Trad Redav's 666th.
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Raziel Anjelis - Student
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My ex is making me feel like all the things are my fault. She is goin behind my back, stabbing me in the back making out that im some evil sith lord....ahem....person that doesnt want to talk to her. Well Jo...newsflash. IT WASNT MY FAULT!! Sorry just had to get that off my chest. Anyway people just remember there are plenty more relationships on the way so sit tight ppl, she's on her way!!! Or he, in the case of women _______________ Proud owner of El Vee For's 200th Comment, and Wicek's 2600th comment DaMi3N's 400th, Trad Redav's 666th.
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Masta - Jedi Council
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I wont post anything here >_> No wait...of course i will Sry to hear all that stuff guys...i know how painfull it is but you guys have to keep on going...dont make the mistake and prevail in the past for too long... Take Care _______________ Find out more about the Jedi Academy Aurochs here and more about Masta here! Married to Kain. |
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Ash - Eats Babies 
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The girl I've been in love with for 3 years just got engaged yesterday to some guy. I feel fantastic. /sarcasm off _______________ "We keep odd hours...." ----------------------- They Live, We Sleep |
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Henkes - Student 
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Hey Jarhok, too bad you broke up with your GF man, I hope you parted without holding a grudge... _______________ Get on your feet and do the Funky Alfonzo! |
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Gradius - Ex-Student 
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That sucks man. I remember my first girlfriend, I was with her for 3 months, I guess you could say I was in love with her. But my best friend didn't like her. And somehow he talked me into calling her and breaking up with her. This was about 5 years ago, and I regret it every single day. _______________ - Proud padawan of Kueller. - We really are at the beginning of it all. The trick, of course, is to make sure we never find the end. - Bill Bryson, A Short History of Nearly Everything - <gen-e-sis-happy> Liek, you can train, liek, a n00b, but he'll just be a trained n00b... --> Wise words! - "daer SOE me likes your a company i am having your some money for letting me do stuff cos mes the best amd i do it all meself" - Slider |
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