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Master Bandon - Student  |
Okay, this is a relationship-type thing. i really need help cause it seems a little wrong to me>_< I sorta have this... thing for my sister's friend(really kinda scares me but my parents and friends think she likes me too) but she just got a boyfriend(which she says is annoying and wants to drop him) she's turning 12 (she's 2 years younger than me) All i want is advice, i'm lost and confused _______________ A Jedi shall not know Anger...nor Hate...nor Love. -Jedi Master Bandon  |
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Aron - Retired 
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I am still not locking this thread. I am sure Darth Bandon posted this with the sole purpose of actually getting some advice. Don't see my initial post too harsh. I know, it was rather direct, but I gave you my opinion, and some links I strongly advice you to read. Again, I will not lock this post. Instead, I will trust that everyone that feels they can't stop themselfs from making a nasty, degrading comment will stay out of this thread. Yes. Now you can all start calling me harsh. If I see any comments that are degrading on this thread, expect some consequences. |
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Master Bandon - Student 
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no, i'm just so confused, i'm gonna wait a little while. And Tyrant is right, i don't need help anymore _______________ A Jedi shall not know Anger...nor Hate...nor Love. -Jedi Master Bandon
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Quote: she just dropped the boyfriend, but i'm neutral now Meaning you don't want her as your girlfriend no more? |
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Tyrant - Ex-Student 
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Ok this thread is done now. |
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Master Bandon - Student 
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she just dropped the boyfriend, but i'm neutral now _______________ A Jedi shall not know Anger...nor Hate...nor Love. -Jedi Master Bandon
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Tyrant - Ex-Student
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Quote: I agree,she has a boyfriend. dont be so harsh on the guy, if you think at 14 hes too young for a relationship, dont be surprised if hes too young to make choices on his own. dont laugh or make fun of him, thats just impolite at the least  im pretty sure most people here have felt lost or confused at some point. She has a boyfriend for crying out loud, I don't see what he wants advice on. This comment was edited by Tyrant on May 10 2005 02:11pm. |
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Master Bandon - Student
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well, at least some people are helping, thx people (see i told you, nerds need to stick together {jk}) but thanks anyway (btw i decided not to do anything, you're all right, relationships are so confusing )so ya, i guess you guys (or girls?) helped somewhat _______________ A Jedi shall not know Anger...nor Hate...nor Love. -Jedi Master Bandon
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Tyrant - Ex-Student
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The only thing I can say is: The force will be with you...always! This comment was edited by Tyrant on May 10 2005 02:06pm. |
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Raziel Anjelis - Student 
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I am going to take my advice from a Queens of the Stone Age song..... Go With The Flow. You're far too young to be worrying about this! Just chill out and let life take its course. Good Luck Dude, may the flirt be with you! +-Raziel-+ _______________ Proud owner of El Vee For's 200th Comment, and Wicek's 2600th comment  DaMi3N's 400th, Trad Redav's 666th.
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Age matters. You can say it doesn't but it does. I'm not really going to reiterate a point as to why because we all know you won't listen. A few years down the road you'll figure it out on your own. Now, with your problem you need to figure out a couple things. First and formost you need to think about what you are looking for in a person. If you do not know what it is you want out of an individual then how do you know that person qualifies? This is the most crucial aspect of finding someone. You can always say "Well I don't care who I date just as long as they are hot and they like me!" That usually does not work. Two people can always be attracted to each other but what makes them stay together? That is why it is important to think about the qualities you are looking for in someone. Be it interests, politics, hobbies, religion, etc. Now I do insist that there be some leeway into your choices. A person does not always have to fully fill out the profile of who you are looking for. Not everyone is perfect so the best thing to do is just think of the qualities that matter the most to you. Everything else can just be a bonus. The second thing you need to do is get to know these individuals (you know, the chicks you keep talking about). Spend time with them and learn what they are into. A good thing to find out are their goals and aspects. They can always tell a lot about a person. And third you need to decide on your own what to do. We can not tell you an answer. If you are ready for a semi-serious commitment then go for it. If you are not ready for anything then just play ignorant and ignore their advances. My current advice. Flirt. Play off everything as compliments. If a girl is truly serious about dating you then she will most certainly let you know it. It might not be a direct approach but she will most likely drop enough hints to get through the thickest of skulls. If you do end up in a relationship and it sours real quick then do not let it crush you. Just learn from mistakes and move on. If you get dumped then just go up to another girl and play the pity card. Sympothy is a great pick up move. That's about all the advice I can give right now. I'm probably going to save what I just typed because I have a feeling that I am going to need to post this up somewhere else real soon. Relationship advice on the interw3b....sigh....lordz... _______________ "We keep odd hours...." ----------------------- They Live, We Sleep |
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Darth Jason - Student 
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Don"t worry about this crap kid just be young while you still can.These are the best times of your life, no kids no bills no taxes, enjoy it. There will be time for romance when you are older. Have fun go to a ballgame play nintendo (TECMO BOWL is the best game) read comic books etc. just don't stress over something that won't make a difference to you in 3-5 years _______________ I have seen EP3 now I can die happy and complete. Happy Star Wars Completion day everyone!!!! |
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Master Bandon - Student
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Quote: The reason we're not taking it that serious is because at the age you are relationships shouldn't be that serious. Sure at your age it might feel like life and death and that this girl is the love of your life and if you miss your chance you'll be alone forever. as a matter of fact i do, i think video game nerds should hold together (jk) but thanks, i know i lack the age, but i just want help, please disregard the age, pretend we're older if you want to (but anyway, thanks for the help guys Your second paragraph demonstrates why we aren't taking it seriously. Some girl "wanting to have your children". That just shows a lack of maturity and seriousness among even the girls at that age. And if you've got 2 or 3 girls wanting you or whatever, that's not a problem, that's a blessing. You want some advice: pick the one you think you like the most and go out with her. If it doesn't work out, big deal. You're only 14 you have plenty of time. Remember you're also seeking advice from a bunch of video game nerds. Is this really the group of people you want to be getting advice from? _______________ A Jedi shall not know Anger...nor Hate...nor Love. -Jedi Master Bandon
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MOTREC - Student 
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btw here is my "harsh" comment HARSH HARSH HARSH HARSH HARSH HARSH HARSH HARSH HARSH HARSH oh and did i mention??? HARSH just kidding aron i lub ya man. |
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MOTREC - Student 
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the adults perspective.... as buzz said: "at your age relationships are'nt taken that serious". from an adults perspective (having been there) its not as serious as what we as adults have going on in our lives. One thing some of us all have lost is the memories of being young and "eager" and exuding way too much enthusiasm on having a "relationship" like the ones we have seen our parents and other adults around us have. we (at the tender ages from 11 to 17) want to experience what we see and the drive for this is totally understandable. Now for the reality. as the only thing we ever know is "the now", meaning knowing how we feel or how we see things at the current moment we see them as being dead serious as this is all we know. when in reality we should realize and try to look to the future. settling down with someone isnt as easy as some of you might think. there are sacrifices involved and as you are young you have barely just let go of your toys and the comforts that get you through the night I myself dont feel you could begin to imagine the commitment that is involved with being with someone. when you live with someone and are sharing your life with them you cant just say its over, go home to mommy, or anything of that sort. you have to stand up and realize that you have dedicated yourself to this person and there is no turning from that unless you go through the pain of ending it. i have devoted myself and my life to my wife and our two beautiful children and as such have foresaken alot of the things i once held dear to me. but like my toys i have retired these "youngster" habits.this is just my insight into being young and the war raged between "going steady" and "dating" plz dont let yourself be misinformed. dating is fun and is meant to be. it helps you determine what type of lady you wish to spend your life with. take advantage of it now. If you truly feel yourself mature enough to handle dating and the responsibilities that go with it such as, NO MEANING NO, or teenage pregnancy, or worse yet std's, the surely you can understand what im saying here when i say this... Take your time. date alot of girls. *note i said DATE not go steady with. wait until college to see yourself "going steady". there doesnt need to be sexual interaction either to get to know a person. thats a sacred act reserved for people who already seriously know eachother and are close to marriage if not married already. stick with the feelings that you donot depend on one person to make your life move. if you cannot have this girl as your girlfriend then have her as a friend and get to know her. who knows maybe a relationship will develop when she is old enough to comprehend what it is you are looking for in a girlfriend and might want to give a go at a relationship with you. for gods sake though just have fun and dont worry about what your hormones are saying above all else. keep your head on your shoulders and do the right thing always no matter how much it hurts to do so. this public service announcment has been brought to you by the letters a and k and the number 12. much love, MO This comment was edited by MOTREC on May 10 2005 01:30am. |
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Quote: if ($age = $that_young) { wait_untill_you_are_actually_old_enough_for_relationships(); } Similiar threads: http://www.thejediacademy.net/forums_detail_page.php?f_id=12230 http://www.thejediacademy.net/forums_detail_page.php?f_id=12068 http://www.thejediacademy.net/forums_detail_page.php?f_id=11799 I won't lock this this thread (yet), but please note how the other the other three threads have been locked. Twelve years old, or rather, YOUNG, is not an age to be thinking of "relationships". You're probably thinking right away "but she's so grownup already", but this proves otherwise: Quote: but she just got a boyfriend(which she says is annoying and wants to drop him) Relationships should be taken more seriously. If you want serious advice, ask again when you're both ready for it. Unlike many other online communities, this one is NOT composed mainly of prepubescent American boys. (Except for Gradius that is. ) I, and hopefully the rest of the JA as well, wish you all the best in your discovery of those wonderful things known as hormones, but please, keep them out of here until you're old enough to realise this isn't the place for them anyway.  _______________ Saving the world, one kilobyte at a time. |
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Quote: Remember you're also seeking advice from a bunch of video game nerds. Is this really the group of people you want to be getting advice from? I resent that! I'm a STUD! |
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The reason we're not taking it that serious is because at the age you are relationships shouldn't be that serious. Sure at your age it might feel like life and death and that this girl is the love of your life and if you miss your chance you'll be alone forever. Your second paragraph demonstrates why we aren't taking it seriously. Some girl "wanting to have your children". That just shows a lack of maturity and seriousness among even the girls at that age. And if you've got 2 or 3 girls wanting you or whatever, that's not a problem, that's a blessing. You want some advice: pick the one you think you like the most and go out with her. If it doesn't work out, big deal. You're only 14 you have plenty of time. Remember you're also seeking advice from a bunch of video game nerds. Is this really the group of people you want to be getting advice from? _______________ When you are going through Hell, keep going. -Sir Winston Churchill. Those who seek power and control of others, no matter the level, no matter the intentions, should never be given it. |
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Master Bandon - Student
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I'm frickin serious...i'm in 9th grade (i started a year early) and all i want is help (don't regard my age, i shouldn't have put in in there, obviously, you're not taking it seriously) but anyway, her boyfriend(or whatever) is mad at me saying it's my fault she hates him... (by the way, feel free to block the topic, no one's serious around here, so i'll go elsewhere for real help, i don't want to sound mean or anything, but i need help, not comments regarding my age) and thank you solitude and mikecore but now i'm even more confused, this chick at my school believes i'm "hot" and "wants to have my children", but then this other girl says she likes me...and my sister's friend just broke up with her old boyfriend and wants to date with me ...i'm even more lost now than before i asked for help _______________ A Jedi shall not know Anger...nor Hate...nor Love. -Jedi Master Bandon
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D@RtHM@UL - Student 
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Quote: I am still not locking this thread. I am sure Darth Bandon posted this with the sole purpose of actually getting some advice. Don't see my initial post too harsh. I know, it was rather direct, but I gave you my opinion, and some links I strongly advice you to read. Again, I will not lock this post. Instead, I will trust that everyone that feels they can't stop themselfs from making a nasty, degrading comment will stay out of this thread. Yes. Now you can all start calling me harsh. If I see any comments that are degrading on this thread, expect some consequences. See the bold part, I did nothing different. This comment was edited by D@RtHM@UL on May 09 2005 06:10pm. |
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solitude - Jedi Council 
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Quote: Well, at the end of the day, a boyfriend at twelve years old means nothing. Let kids have their fun, and let 'em learn how things work. They'll benefit from it in later life. omg he said something sane! i second that  _______________ Joined 16 October 2004 | Retired 10 April 2005 | Returned 05 June 2008 | Made Staff 27 June 2008 | Made Council 18 January 2009 Padawan To Odan-Wei Belouve | Adopted into the Belouve family | Twin to xAnAtOs | Owner of the 4th Quesi sexy badge Brother To Roan Belouve, Nomad, Majno, Silkmonkey, Kensei and Jarhok Belouve
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Well, at the end of the day, a boyfriend at twelve years old means nothing. Let kids have their fun, and let 'em learn how things work. They'll benefit from it in later life. |
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solitude - Jedi Council
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i got the impression that he wanted advice on what to do, as hes in a weird situation. not to be laughed at and called sad. if someone wants go give him advice go ahead. just dont post if you have nothing constructive. _______________ Joined 16 October 2004 | Retired 10 April 2005 | Returned 05 June 2008 | Made Staff 27 June 2008 | Made Council 18 January 2009 Padawan To Odan-Wei Belouve | Adopted into the Belouve family | Twin to xAnAtOs | Owner of the 4th Quesi sexy badge Brother To Roan Belouve, Nomad, Majno, Silkmonkey, Kensei and Jarhok Belouve
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D@RtHM@UL - Student
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Quote: dont be so harsh on the guy, if you think at 14 hes too young for a relationship, dont be surprised if hes too young to make choices on his own. dont laugh or make fun of him, thats just impolite at the least im pretty sure most people here have felt lost or confused at some point. She has a boyfriend for crying out loud, I don't see what he wants advice on. |
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solitude - Jedi Council
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dont be so harsh on the guy, if you think at 14 hes too young for a relationship, dont be surprised if hes too young to make choices on his own. dont laugh or make fun of him, thats just impolite at the least im pretty sure most people here have felt lost or confused at some point. _______________ Joined 16 October 2004 | Retired 10 April 2005 | Returned 05 June 2008 | Made Staff 27 June 2008 | Made Council 18 January 2009 Padawan To Odan-Wei Belouve | Adopted into the Belouve family | Twin to xAnAtOs | Owner of the 4th Quesi sexy badge Brother To Roan Belouve, Nomad, Majno, Silkmonkey, Kensei and Jarhok Belouve
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D@RtHM@UL - Student
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Quote: But yeah, maybe this should be locked. Sounds like a great idea. |
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